Hug your kids.

Hug your kids.

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Organize your attitude #34

Once upon a time, I had a somewhat embarrassing item on my daily checklist: Smile at each child.

Eventually, I graduated to “Hug each child.”

Yes, it was on my list that I had to actually check off, because I knew it was a good and necessary habit for a mom to have, and yet I did not have it.

Slowly, checkmark-by-checkmark, I built the habit until I didn’t need it on my checklist anymore.

It’s too easy to lose track of the small things that really matter. We get grand plans and big ideas and forget that it’s the little touches that make a big difference in the end.

Relationships are built with each word, with each touch, and sometimes what we really need to pay attention to is the foundation: the tone of each interaction. Moment by moment, our connection with each individual child is being strengthened or weakened.

All it takes is a hug to add a touch of strength.

All it takes is a harsh word to weaken it.

So let’s make sure those touches of strength happen at regular, intentional intervals – it matters. They add up.

Even if it seems silly to put something you know you should do naturally onto your daily checklist, it’s better that it be on a checklist and done than only done sporadically. It’s not less heartfelt because it’s on a to do list.

That to do list is only doing its job if it points us to our priorities and our responsibilities.

Hugging our kids is not only for our kids’ benefit, either. It’s for ours.

When we feel out of sorts, reaching out to hug our children is a physical, tangible reminder to ourselves of what matters. It is a response we can choose instead when we feel like yelling.

When we feel out of sorts, reaching out to hug our children is a physical, tangible reminder to ourselves of what matters. It is a response we can choose instead when we feel like yelling.

Don’t just stuff the wrong reaction, move forward by choosing the right one: love in the little, daily things.

We can actively change our own demeanor and the tone of our house by hugging our children, by smiling into their eyes, by listening without a frown.

Even if you have to put it on your morning checklist, do it.


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