Review: Managers of Their Homes by Terri Maxwell

Review: Managers of Their Homes by Terri Maxwell

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This 175-page spiral-bound book by Steven and Teri Maxwell has been around for over ten years now. I’ve seen ladies (online only) mention their “MOTH schedule,” looked at a few online, and shrugged. I saw that the format was that you schedule out in columns what each member of the family is doing — including babies — and thought, “Ah, well, I could do that on my own if I wanted to make up a schedule.” And, when I have made routine/schedule charts, I have formatted them the way I saw others’ MOTH schedules formatted. So, why should I buy the book?

I don’t remember why, but I was reminded of this book just as I was preparing to start my diligence in housework series, and took the time to really read what was on their website. According to what I read there, this book was not only how to schedule, but also how to work a schedule. I could see that this was no rigid, militaristic strict scheduling, but a plan of action that was a tool in the hand of a manager, and the book was about how to effectively wield the tool. So I bought it.

Managers of Their Homes lived up to that claim. The last half of the book is how to figure out what should be in your schedule and your children’s schedules and how to piece it together. It comes with a handy and clever kit with movable pieces, so you can quickly and easily visualize and adjust the day’s activities. But creating lists and schedules and clever charts is my personal pet interest, so that didn’t get me terribly excited. What I loved was the first half of the book, which laid out an approach to a real schedule with time slots and all, that was “real life.” The sidebars on every page include comments from 25 test families, almost all of whom say it was only after implementing the schedule as the Maxwells lay out that they stopped feeling like task masters and drill sergeants with their kids.

The two key concepts for me were to schedule enough margin into the day to handle interruptions, because every day has interruptions. Plan on being interrupted, plan enough room so that doesn’t stress you out, and expect to be interrupted. The interruptions are part of our job that God sends (discipline, diapers, phone call from a needy friend, etc.); the schedule is there so that things stay mostly managed and we are more free, not less, to take care of unexpected needs. Second, if it’s a big interruption or a non-typical day or something goes terribly wrong, just pick the schedule back up when its over. Deal with what’s in front of you, and get back to regular life, picking it right back up. So the morning went hay-wire? Well, you’ll have another one tomorrow, just pick the schedule back up at whatever time you’re in and keep moving.

Because it’s written down, you don’t have to sit and think and wonder what to do next. The benefit of the schedule is two-fold: 1) You don’t have to wonder what to do next; you know what you should be doing, so it cuts down on decisions and thinking. 2) Your kids don’t have to wonder what to do next, or ask you what to do next, or go off and make mischief because they are left to themselves; they also are able to just “do the next thing” — once they’re elementary-aged, anyway.

She has chapters on scheduling school, children, babies, chores, food, and summer. Her flexibility and humility is most evidenced in the baby chapter. She scheduled her babies, and she helps you see how she did in the chapter, but she says from the outset that if you are opposed to scheduling babies, just leave them out of the schedule and keep enough margin in your schedule to accommodate their needs. The chapter on summer has ideas for changing the schedule, keeping the schedule, and just abandoning the schedule for a season. This really is a tool and not a shackle, to be used as it fits your personality and family.

So, I am glad I went ahead and got the book. I also ordered the Mp3 conference session with Teri Maxwell, and I enjoyed that as well. It had additional ideas and encouragement, but was not identical content as the book. It helped me “hear” her tone in the book; she was humble and humorous and encouraging and very real. This is no “be like us” sort of system. This is explaining a tool she developed that is to be used as fits families individually.

Final note: If you find the book used, it will probably not have the scheduling kit. If you like scheduling and Excel and paperwork, you’ll be fine without it. If organizing isn’t your thing, you’ll be thrilled with the kit, I think. It’s a pretty clever way to work out a family’s schedule.

7 Responses

  1. Meredith_in_Aus
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    This was THE book that helped us start our homeschool journey. I first googled “homeschooling” just a few weeks after MOTH was released and her site was the first I clicked on. I must say, I was totally weirded out by the thought of 8 children (I was already weirded out by homeschooling, but ‘circumstances’ – otherwise known as Providence – were heading me down that road)! Her youngest is the same age as my eldest and, whadda ya know, now I have 8 myself! (Not that I have been copying). I love the book – it is the number one resource I loan out – and your review is excellent. Well done.

    In Him

    Meredith

  2. Anna
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    I have heard about MOTH for years, but have avoided it for years because I thought it would be too rigid for my personality and family. Your review has made me think I may be wrong. I am realizing that our days, and attitudes, would benefit from some more structure.

    • Mystie Winckler
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      MOTH definitely could become too rigid a system; I think it depends on the attitude — and, likely, personality — with which you approach it. I am more prone to acadia/laziness than achiever-guilt. I naturally tweak and don’t follow instructions well.

      But if instructions increase pressure to do things “right” and you’re already task or detail-oriented, then MOTH could become a stressful thing. But if you can take the advice that works and adapt it to your family, it’s a very helpful resource.

      MOTH + Mother’s Rule of Life is a great combo, because MROL was partly inspired by a MOTH presentation. MOTH is the nitty-gritty details and practicalities and base, and MROL provides the philosophical, motivational and comprehensive side.

    • dawn
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      Anna, I own both MOTH and Mother’s Rule of Life if you want to borrow either or both of them. I also have Managers of their Chores (which isn’t as good, but has some helps)

  3. Mystie Winckler
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    The best tidbit I got from MOTH was posting the schedule so the kids can follow it themselves, which cuts down on Mommy-directing and therefore Mommy-stress.

  4. I feel like I’m decent at scheduling, so I go back and forth on whether I think I need to buy this. Your review is very compelling, though.

    My main hurdle this year is having so many non-readers. I feel like I need to be individually with every child but one, and I keep praying that we will find out what works because I wonder if there are enough hours in the day for that! I’m combining what I think can be combined, but still…

    • Mystie Winckler
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      If we were nearby I would lend it to you; do you have anyone you could borrow it from? I doubt you’d need or want it to own at the point and experience you’re at now, especially if you’ve been able to make scheduling work in real life! :)

      What about a thirty-minute or so block with one or two of the nonreaders and an audio book or memory work on a CD? They’d be engaged, but you’d be able to focus on one for that time, and it’d come with an automatic “timer” built in. Listening has been the most effective means for my prereaders to memorize the catechism. It’s better than a DVD, anyway. :)

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